Having the Talk with Your Mom

Having the talk with your mom....no no not THE talk but so similar that its just as uncomfortable!

Telling your mom your TTC

The big question, do you tell people your TTC? Living in fantasy land I thought it'd be a great idea to tell my mom I'm TTC. I think she will be so happy and excited for us! I know how much she wants a grandchild to love on. She will have tons of amazing advice for me. She has also been telling me for years how oral contraceptives are terrible for me, so wont she at least be glad I'm off? WRONG again! I tell my mom I'm TTC, it's that weird power mothers have its not so much what she said but how she looked. You know that look, the I'm disappointed in you look. The immediate feeling of guilt. Ah but wait I've done nothing wrong! I'm a grown women! Then you start to get angry. This forces me to call my sister immediately who now knows I'm TTC. Obviously she works as a mediator, seeing both sides of the situation. Now my mom has now moved on to completely ignoring it or if i bring it up to test the waters she questions our readiness.

I have since learned its best to not bring up TTC with anybody other than someone TTC or your husband. It's best to just surprise them with an I'm pregnant! They can't act mean about that right? Guess I'll find out one day......

Where We Are

Let’s fast forward to my current situation and some background. I ditched the birth control sometime around September. So I thought we will try and bam I’ll be preggo in no time right?! WRONG! We have been TTC ever since, however we have not done any charting.

Problems people don’t mention:

The thought that I’m ovulating scares my husband. My husband is a laid back guy who always works to make me happy. He does not work well when I pressure him. So for me to say ok we need to try this week threw him into a tizzy. He doesn’t want to let me down but the pressure caused him to explode. He asked himself so many questions. Would he be a good dad? Will he be able to care for his family, etc.. After a few months of this I decided to stop talking to him so openly about ovulating, when we have to do it, and putting so much pressure on him. It’s easy to seduce a man ;) so only one of us needs to be charting and worrying.

Scheduling scheduling! With such a short window to get pregnant it is almost like all the stars have to align. Currently I work 12 hr shifts, standing all day and he is a medical student. My ovulation window for the first few months coincidentally fell right before he had a huge exam. He was so stressed freaking out about his test for about a week before, it was impossible to schedule ourselves. Sadly if you don’t catch that window you can say goodbye to that month. See you again in 28 days! This month has been the first month all the stars have seemed to align. After this month I am going to start charting and blogging! My goal is to blog about my experiences along my baby journey. Speaking truthfully and honestly. Blogging the ups and downs, and hopefully helping other women along the way.